How to ask
The transition into parenthood can be hard. If you know a new or expectant parent there are many ways to offer support. It can be hard to know where to start. One idea is to simply ask “How they you going?” and then listen really well.
It can be difficult to watch someone in your family adjust to the challenges of parenthood, especially if you see them struggling. It might make you reflect on your own experience.
Two of the most helpful options could be to offer some practical assistance and a listening ear.
Getting your friend out for a walk or coffee and talking at the same time might be useful. Check in often, offer times to connect and always give them space to respond.
If you can, ask them “How is it going being a parent?” or share a funny story of your own experience. Validation and listening well can be valuable.
You could be one of the first people to notice a change in your partner. It might be useful to check in and have a regular weekly catch up time with limited interruptions.
Some practical support or providing a listening ear may be all that is needed. Sometimes you just need someone to be there for you and ask the question, "How are you going?".
If you notice changes in yourself and what you normally do to feel good isn't working, then maybe it's time to reach out and get some further support from a trusted friend, family member, GP or other health professional.
The transition can feel a bit like a rollercoaster. We want you to know that you're not alone and support is available.
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